家中排行老二 長(zhǎng)大后更有出息？

How 'overlooked' middle children triumph in the end

被忽視的家中老二長(zhǎng)大后最有出息

According to the stereotype, they are usually overshadowed and overlooked.

在人們的印象中，排行中間的孩子常常生活在家里其他孩子的陰影之下或被忽視。

But middle children are more likely to grow up to become successful and well-adjusted adults, a study has claimed.

但有研究表明：排行中間的孩子，長(zhǎng)大后更易取得成功且更有適應(yīng)能力。

Far from being apathetic or withdrawn, researchers found that a middle child’s place in the family helps them develop negotiation and communication skills.

研究表明，排行中間并不會(huì)令他們感情冷淡或孤獨(dú)離群，相反，他們?cè)诩彝ブ兴幍奈恢酶欣趨f(xié)商談判和溝通交流能力的發(fā)展。

Psychologist Catherine Salmon claims that middle siblings are more likely to ‘become agents of change in business, politics and science’ – a conclusion that high-profile middle children such as Madonna and Bill Gates would probably support.

心理學(xué)家凱瑟琳·薩爾蒙稱，排行中間的孩子更可能“成為商業(yè)經(jīng)理人，政客和科學(xué)家”——麥當(dāng)娜和比爾蓋茨等名人可能會(huì)贊同這一說(shuō)法，因?yàn)樗麄円彩羌依锱判兄虚g的孩子。

And they are also more likely to be faithful spouses, have the drive to succeed in the workplace and be motivated by fairness.

不僅如此，排行中間的孩子會(huì)在婚姻關(guān)系中更加忠誠(chéng)，在工作中更為努力的獲取成功，對(duì)公平有更高的要求。

Professor Salmon, who reviewed dozens of studies into the effect of birth order for her book The Secret Power of Middle Children, said: ‘As children, middles have to wait a lot. Modern middles wait while their younger sibling is loaded into the car seat.

薩爾蒙教授在完成《排行中間孩子的神秘力量》一書時(shí)，對(duì)幾十個(gè)家庭進(jìn)行了跟蹤研究，以探知家中排行會(huì)對(duì)孩子成長(zhǎng)產(chǎn)生何種影響。她發(fā)現(xiàn)：“排行中間的孩子經(jīng)常需要等待。等父母先把弟弟妹妹在汽車座位上安置好。”

'They wait while the firstborn performs in the recital. They wait to be served at the dinner table and complimented for their hard work in school. Middles are accustomed to not getting what they want right away.

家中長(zhǎng)子登臺(tái)演出時(shí)，他們等待自己有一天也登上舞臺(tái)。在餐桌上，他們要等待，父母表?yè)P(yáng)孩子們?cè)趯W(xué)校里的表現(xiàn)時(shí)，首先提到的也不是他們的名字。他們習(xí)慣于不會(huì)立即得到想要的東西。

'They learn the art of delayed gratification, and this helps them later in life.'

“他們很早就學(xué)會(huì)了延誤滿足的藝術(shù)，這對(duì)他們以后的生活很有幫助。”

However, the picture isn’t all rosy, as Professor Salmon also found that middle children report feeling more distant from their parents and are more likely to be easily influenced by their friends.

然而，排行中間帶來(lái)的并不全是好處，薩爾蒙教授還發(fā)現(xiàn)：排行中間的孩子與父母的關(guān)系更為疏遠(yuǎn)，且更容易受到朋友的影響。

She added: ‘Middles get less time, attention and resources from their parents, and they often suffer from this. But this suffering seems to be short-lived.

她補(bǔ)充道：“家長(zhǎng)在排行中間的孩子身上投入的時(shí)間、精力和資源都比較少，這會(huì)讓孩子們感到困擾。但這種困擾并不長(zhǎng)久。”

‘As is abundantly clear, this lack of attention can lead to the development of some extremely useful skills.’

“毫無(wú)疑問，缺乏關(guān)注會(huì)造成孩子某些重要技能發(fā)展的缺失。”